|In my previous post I asked if you know who you are in this season of your life. Now I want to ask you if you know what you want in your future. I have clients who are struggling with mental exhaustion – they feel drained, scared and paralyzed. Their life has changed. Their kids have left home, they don’t have the same schedule and connections that they used to. They tell me that they have spent so many years taking care of others needs and wants that they don’t even know what they want anymore.
Some of them numb their feelings with distractions or food, anything to avoid feeling useless. At the end of the day, they still feel useless because they were numbing instead of doing.
In my coaching practice, I use a Life Satisfaction Wheel to help my clients know where they are, and start thinking about where they want to be. The Life Satisfaction Wheel has 12 life priorities that cover almost every aspect of life. You give yourself a number from 0-10 based on how satisfied you are with that part of your life.
I was shocked when I filled out the Life Satisfaction Wheel and I didn’t give myself any “10’s”, I love my life but I couldn’t give any part of it a “10”?
Using a Life Satisfaction Wheel really helps take stock of where we are. Keep in mind, it’s not the Wheel that helps us change – it’s the questions that we answer after we fill out the wheel.
Here is a link to a PDF of the same Life Satisfaction Wheel that I use with my clients. As you look at each category, ask yourself, on a scale of 0-10, how satisfied are you with that part of your life. In order to get a 10, your life doesn’t have to be perfect, but you should be happy where you are with that aspect of your life. A 10 simply means that you are where you want to be in that part of your life right now. No changes are necessary.
In my case, after I asked myself why I had given myself the scores that I did, I realized that I had at least 4 – “10’s”. It was the magic of asking myself the right questions.
Here are some questions to ask yourself after filling out the Life Satisfaction Wheel:
o Why did I give myself this score in this category?
o What would a 10 look like?What am I willing to do to get a 10?
o How would I prioritize each category?
o What are my top 5 priorities?
If you find this Life Satisfaction Wheel helpful, you might also enjoy working with me to really discover who you are, what you want in your life, and how to get it. Your new identity awaits in my “Kids Are Gone – Now What?” $99 coaching program. This simple program helps you rediscover who you are, what you want and how to get it. This program is a great introduction to some of the benefits of life coaching and bringing greater clarity and purpose to your life.