There’s Power In Your Story: Rewriting Your Narrative

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There’s Power In Your Story: Rewriting Your Narrative

About 13 years ago, I owned a scrapbook store, and during those years everyone seemed to be into scrapbooking. It was delightful helping all my customers tell their family stories. I also loved being able to share my own family stories. I consider myself a storyteller and believe that we learn so much about ourselves and our families through the stories we tell.  It helps us make sense of our lives and our families. (Of course we learn even more if our stories have pictures!)

As a lifecoach, I see the power of stories and storytelling every day. However, they are not necessarily the kind of stories that we scrapbook. Each of us is living out the stories of our lives that we have created. I hear stories of those who have overcome challenges and are using those challenges to build a better life. I talk to people who feel at the mercy of others because they believe that others in their lives have more say in their story than they do.

The story that you tell yourself creates your present and your future.

In the self-coaching thought model, our thoughts create our feelings, our feelings drive our actions and our actions create the results that we observe in our lives. 

But, what if we don’t like what we are creating in our lives?

Changing Our Stories

The simple answer is to change our story – or the thoughts that drive our actions and results.  I’ve previously written about becoming the heroin in your own story.

But it’s NOT that easy.

If it were, everyone would feel like they have complete control over their lives.

#1 It’s really hard to catch our own damaging stories – they feel so true.

Then, even when we see our stories, it’s hard to stop telling them because they are so engrained.

And finally, it’s really easy to relapse into these not helpful stories by default.

My Offer To You

This summer I am working on re-writing some of my own disempowering stories and I would love to help YOU examine your unhelpful stories.  You can discover a better story, a vision of yourself where you are stronger, wiser and more courageous than you ever believed.  And then I will help you practice becoming that strong, wise and brave person. 

Is now the time for you to change some of your stories?

If so, simply click the button below and set up a complementary 30-minute appointment, and let’s talk.


Becoming The Heroine of Our Own Stories

Heroine in our own stories

Becoming The Heroine of Our Own Stories

I love the notion that by small and simple things, we can make BIG changes, but sometimes there are just BIG changes in our lives that we have to adapt to…

Changes In My Life

That happened to me 7 years ago when my husband left the LDS faith. So many of the foundations of our marriage centered around a common belief. I had to adjust my relationship with him and also my relationship with my own faith, because of the ripple effects from his loss of faith.

Over these past 7 years, I’ve developed my own story about my identity as the believing member in my family. Some of these stories are really powerful, such as the confidence I’ve developed to take charge of all religious observances in my home. Some of my stories are disempowering, like my belief that women in my position are invisible at church.

Updating Our Stories

We all have stories that we hang on to. Some of them started as helpful and useful to help us through a hard change. Often our stories are outdated and no longer useful.

Several of our stories need to be updated.

One of my summer projects is to examine my beliefs and stories about my faith identity and to update those stories with new ones that fit all the growth that I’ve experienced in the past 7 years.

This may be a good summer for you to look at your own stories, because we all have them. Do your stories still work for you? Are they helping you to grow? Do you like who you are in them? Or are they keeping you stuck and maybe at the mercy of others?

An Offer To Help

I would love to help you update your stories. Together we will look at what your current stories are creating for your life and then we will decide what you want to emphasize and create in your new stories. Finally, you will choose and practice the beliefs that help you become the heroine in your own story.

Does this sound like fun?  Maybe not – because honestly, some parts are just really hard work. But it’s a good hard work!  It’s a worthwhile and satisfying effort, and I would love to be part of your work.

Perhaps now is the time for you to change some of your outdated stories?  I would love to help you get started. Simply click the button below and set up a complementary 30-minute appointment, and let’s talk.