Why You Aren’t Getting What You Need

Peaceful Office

Last week in my email I wrote about how to put yourself on the list of people that you care for.  For a lot of women this does not come very easily. They haven’t spent much time thinking about how to take care of themselves and they aren’t very good at it yet. Here are a few reasons you might not be getting what you need and a couple of suggestions to start turning things around so that you can get what you need.

  1. Do you even know what you need? I’ve asked a lot of women what they need and more often than not I am met with a blank stare. They know what their kids need, their boss needs and their husband needs, but often they haven’t stopped to consider what they need. 
  2. You think someone else is in charge of knowing what you need and helping you get it. It’s so funny that we don’t even know what we need, but we think that someone, usually a spouse or perhaps a friend, will notice that we are at our wits end and suggest what we need to replenish ourselves.
  3. If you did know what you needed, you often can’t figure out how to get it for yourself. It takes too much, time, energy or money.
  4. You don’t believe there is any way you can get what you need. You tell yourself that it is impossible for you to do what it takes to get what you need – and you give up. 

A few weeks ago I was feeling at the end of my rope.  Between Covid, schooling at home for my grandson, construction on my basement and all of us working from home,  I was feeling a little overwhelmed. I needed a break. Here I am a few weeks later, visiting my sister and getting the best break in the world. 

This is what I did. I recognized that I needed a break. I didn’t wait until the other people around me realized that I needed one. I recognized the signs – there isn’t a better person to realize what I need than me.  If I am being honest with myself, I am going to see it sooner than those around me. Then I started exploring possibilities – I did run into the time, energy and money arguments and at first I didn’t believe a break was even possible. The magic and the break came when I started to believe that there was some way for me to get a break.  I was willing to explore options that I have never tried, and when someone offered to assist, I accepted their help. It wasn’t easy or straight forward or convenient for my family, but eventually I got in my car, drove from Seattle to Salt Lake City and I am visiting my sisters. We are having  a wonderful time. I am spending some peaceful time working in a beautiful empty office at my sister’s business while their employees are working from home. Things are wonderful I and am going to be home next week fully refreshed!

You CAN get what you need however you must be responsible for knowing what you need. You must also be willing to get a little creative about your approach to getting your needs met. I am a life coach who specializes in helping women figure out what they need and how to get it. If you aren’t sure there is anyway for you to get what you need, I can help you see the possibilities and assist you in figuring out ways to take care of yourself.  We can get started with a mini program with maxi results, you will learn what you want in our first coaching session, then you will spend a few days asking yourself some questions. Finally in our next coaching session you will start to believe that what you want is possible for you. I know you will feel more confident and optimistic than you did before as you begin giving yourself exactly what you need.  It will feel like magic!

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