“My promise to you is one that a member of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles once made to me.
I said to him that because of choices that some in our extended family had made, I doubted that we could be together in the world to come.
He said, as well as I can remember, “Hal, you are worrying about the wrong problem.
You just live worthy of the celestial kingdom and the family arrangements will be more wonderful than you can imagine.”
I heard Elder Eyring say this during General Conference in 2019, and I still remember his words in my heart. I’ve returned to them over and over.
Henry Eyring
Lesson learned – I just need to worry about myself…
YOU TAKE CARE OF YOU
This reminds me of when I was raising my girls and one of them would come crying to me, tattling on her sister. I would tell her to just take care of herself and she didn’t need to worry about what her sister was doing, I would take care of her sister. Now I admit there were times when I needed to rush in and take care of that other sister because she WAS up to no good!
WORRYING ABOUT THINGS YOU CAN’T CONTROL
I’ve found that it is human nature to worry and fret about things that we can’t do anything about, we waste our time, power and energy thinking about things that we can’t control. The things our adult children are doing fall into this category. How they spend their time, their money, how they parent, how they worship or don’t worship. These are things they are in charge of.
YOU ARE IN CHARGE OF YOU
I know that I have plenty of things for me to work on. I have talents I want to develop, love that I would like to share, habits that I want to break, offenses to forgive, and joy that I want to feel. I have a lot to work to do without looking at someone else’s life and wanting to “fix” theirs.
WORK ON BEING THE BEST YOU POSSIBLE
Let’s just decide to take care of ourselves, our true self, the one that God sees, and work on becoming the heavenly person that God knows is inside of us – and leave those we love in our Heavenly Parents’ capable hands.
THERE ARE STILL THINGS WE CAN DO
That doesn’t mean there is nothing we can do for our adult children, there is a lot we can do for those we love who are struggling with their faith and we’ll talk about those things we CAN do in the coming weeks. In the meantime, let’s practice becoming the BEST PERSON we possibly can.
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