When I start working with coaching clients, I ask them what they want, and frequently they confide that they aren’t sure what they want.
WE OFTEN DON’T KNOW WHAT WE WANT
This is a normal state for many, if not most, of us. Few people know exactly what meaning and purpose they want to create with their life. However, some do know exactly what they DON’T want, and this is also part of the puzzle.
I spent a lot of time this week wondering why people don’t know what they want to do with their lives and I discovered, much to my surprise, that I am not always sure what I want either. The reason I was surprised was that I regularly review my priorities and goals to help keep myself focused on what I want to be working on in my life.
SOMETIMES NOT KNOWING WHAT WE WANT IS FINE
One of the things I realized is that sometimes we can be very clear about our priorities, our dreams, and our goals, and working toward them. Other times we can feel lost and adrift. Both states are normal and neither one is something to worry about.
SOMETIMES WE NEED TO RESET
Sometimes, in those lost and adrift times, when we are feeling miserable, we need to slow down and just take a good look at ourselves and reconsider everything.
That’s where I was this summer.
I had something that looked a little bit like an adult meltdown mixed in with being lost and depressed. For a few weeks I did the meltdown thing and kept wondering what the heck was up? Was there something wrong with me?
During this time, I had to fill out a series of questions for a class I was in, and after answering several questions, I knew that I was feeling depressed. So, I just decided to go with the “being depressed” thing for a while and I watched a LOT of Netflix.
I am here to tell you that it’s OK not to know what you want all the time. It’s OK to let everything go for a bit and let yourself reset. It’s OK.
We are all going through a lot in our lives and a little grace is sometimes needed. Learning to live life with our whole-heart sometimes means that we are OK with those periods in life when we feel adrift and possibly a little depressed.
BUT LET’S KEEP GOING
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