Some of you reading this email may be in the middle of your spouse’s or child’s faith crisis or transition. Something has caused them to have questions or doubts about LDS church doctrine, practices, history or perhaps even God.
They may have been struggling to find answers to their questions for a while – even before they admitted these doubts to themselves.
Perhaps you are just now finding out about these issues your spouse or child has been wrestling with for months or even years?
You are trying to understand how this person you love is seriously doubting the gospel that you have such faith in?
Your mind instantly goes to fear, panic and perhaps anger:
- How could this happen?
- WHY would they do this?
- How can I get them back to the truth?
- How could they do this to our eternal family?
- What will others think about our family now?
- How will their questions affect my own faith and testimony?
Most likely, during your spouse or child’s search for answers to their gospel related questions, they have found few if any people to actually speak with about their thoughts.
Now you are thrust into their faith journey. How will you find answers to your fears and questions?
Who can YOU talk with? Who can relate to your swirl of thoughts? Heavenly Father? A friend at church? Your brother or sister? Your Bishop? Your Ministering Brothers/Sisters? If these resources are able to assist you, that is wonderful!
I didn’t know who I could talk with nearly 6 years ago when my husband finally admitted to himself and to me that he had lost his faith in God. After 8+ years of my husband struggling to find answers to his faith questions. His faith was gone…
Around the same time, but for different reasons, 2 of our daughters also stepped away from the church.
I tried to speak with a few family members and friends to work through my thoughts. Unfortunately, they could not really relate to what I was experiencing, and they had their own thoughts about my situation. They could not help me sort through what I have come to call my “thought tornado”. Thoughts swirling around and around.
I have experienced all of these feelings as a believing spouse and mother, and I have spoken with numerous people about their experience with a spouse or child in faith transition – and beyond.
I would love to give you answers to all of your questions, and “make it all better”, but unfortunately no such formula exists.
Each couple and family situation has characteristics that require different approaches. There are similar issues, but personality, history, relationships, communication styles and timing all factor into choosing options for successfully moving through these emotion-filled situations.
My goal as a life coach is to provide support for LDS women that want to remain faithful to the gospel of Jesus Christ, even when their husband or child loses faith and chooses to walk a different path. If this is you, I would truly like to assist you in this journey.
I wish I could drop by as a friend, so we could just talk, but since that is not really feasible, could I offer to meet with you face to face on Zoom?
I invite you to set up a FREE 30 minute appointment. No obligation, No hard selling sales pitch. This is simply a time for you to share whatever is on your mind with someone that understands. If you find our time helpful, we can consider further discussions.